Marriage is contentious under the best of circumstances. Committing your entire life to someone is an enormous undertaking, and is not without plenty of risks and possibilities for failure. Adding a complication such as a neurological disorder can further exacerbate the difficulty of marriage, and may prove too much for one or both parties to handle.
I have submitted my story because I found so much reassurance and support from reading other women's accounts of their relationships with a person with Asperger syndrome. My husband and I have been married for 42 years and are of retirement age, although we both still work full-time. We have had serious relationship difficulties in certain areas for as long as we have known each other.
It was my wife Kristen, a speech therapist who had worked with autistic children, who was most suspicious about my behavior. After we were married and living together, she started noticing little "things" about me that were consistent with Asperger Syndrome, a mild form of autism: impaired social reasoning; persistent, intense preoccupations with certain interests; unusual rituals and behaviors; and clinical-strength egocentricity. At that time, things were not going well between us.
When the truth comes out, a militant mob is mobilized. People with AS have no idea they lack empathy. This is the reason they become so angry at any claim that they are empathy-deficient.
Here's how to inoculate ourselves against negative ones. Verified by Psychology Today. The Heart of Autism.
This article describes the path followed by many women whose husbands are not diagnosed and who did not have successful couples counseling support to help them understand their differences. I write here about heterosexual married couples because these are the couples I see most frequently in my practice, where most often it is the man who exhibits the characteristics of ASD. This is not meant to imply only heterosexual couples face these issues or only men can have problematic ASD.
Abbie Jones, 32, immediately fell in love with Dan, 37, even though he struggled to be intimate and show her that he loved her…. I first met Dan when I was 17 — I saw his gorgeous blue eyes, floppy blond hair and sweet smile and was smitten. My friend Lauren actually took me along to check him out for her — but he liked me better and told her so — rather bluntly.
Here's how to inoculate ourselves against negative ones. Verified by Psychology Today. Spectrum Solutions. There was a time when my kids were so disrespectful!
Introduction Imagine the following scenario: as a sex therapist you have seen Mark and Sarah for an initial assessment, you are now working with them together in a follow up session. The couple have been married for a year and have presented with a total lack of intimacy or sexual contact. Sarah has refused to be physically intimate with Mark since their wedding night and although she is totally committed to Mark and wants the relationship to continue, states that she has found being physically touched by him both painful and repulsive.